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Thursday, July 13, 2006

A thought on marriage

Over tea, Karthik shared this thought and I thought it meant so much sense as to put it down here (ofcourse with my own improvising ).

Dont marry someone for the beauty's sake.
With time, beauty fades.
Dont marry someone for intellect's sake.
With time, you may not feel as good enough.
Dont marry someone for the money.
With time, money may not seem all that important.
Dont marry someone because one is quick-witted.
With time, quick-wits may not seem all that impressive.
Dont marry someone because one seems not-all-that-bad.
With time that can head towards the gorges.
Dont marry someone because you have a time-crunch.
With time, you might feel you could ve waited for eternity.
Dont marry someone because you dont want to hurt someone.
With time, someone would have moved on.
Dont marry someone because you have everything else on your list checked.
With time, you ll know marriage is not just another task to be done with.
Dont marry someone to settle down.
With time, you ll know marriage is not about settling down , but about starting-off.
Dont marry someone because he/she will get you your dreams.
With time, you ll discover that everyone has their own dreams.

If there is so compelling a reason, that you want to marry someone ,
let that reason be so strong that it can stand the test of time, space and adversity.

When you are left with nothing else in this world,
that someone should suffice.

That is how strong your reason should be.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

exactly the reason why I believe Marriage is a bad idea.. (personal view) here.

Live in relationships as a test bed seems a good start...

dinesh said...

Yours and his thoughts are all valid. But there's another school of thought...and I am starting to subscribe to that these days.

Even if he/she was not the most beautiful, did not have money, did not have an intellectual compatibility, was not the witty type, had earlier baggage, and all those other things you mentioned, time will make them go away. In time, everything can be made to work. So, have no concerns, time will heal them for you. (Well, if not all the time, almost all the time) :)

expertdabbler said...

surukama

"Dont Marry" nu 2 words la solli irukalaam!!

idhukku ivlo periya post idhukku karthik oda inputs vera!!
:D

anyway ivlo solli irukka
innonu kooda add panni irukalaam

Dont marry someone because your parents want you to
With Time...

and how abt this..?

Dont marry someone because your horoscope match.
With Time....

expertdabbler said...

And Dinesh,

Nee optimist nu theriyum ana ivlo optimist nu theriyadhu!!
:)

Risha said...

@sanju
Good to see you here.I really dont have an opinion on that!!

@dinesh
I agree :Everything can be made to work.

Time heals...but the scar remains.

I second pk on your optimism.

@pk
Honestly , I wrote this post with the intent of sowing a thought in all my single friends.

oru ponnu urugi urugi yOsichu yaeludinaa...you are writing an abridged version hmmm?

Gopi Sundharam said...

Well said. I'm in the process of getting married.. :)

expertdabbler said...

gopi,
risha ku kalyanam agiruchu da, idai ellam naama follow pannina namakku aapu daan therinjikov :D

Risha said...

@gopi
Congratulations Gopi :-)

@pk
Englishla oru pazhamozhi undu...
"Every dog has its day" nnu...