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Saturday, May 26, 2012

My take on parenting

I have always been a sun-shine person....everyone who knows me knows that.(yeah yeah ...there are cloudy moments too...) But all along I am a happy person,  incapable of sulking for long and even as a kid I loved pups and babies. I took good care of my pups...loving them to pieces.So my less-evovled self came up with this theory: "If I can be so good with puppies and if every kid likes me, I would make a super-cool mom... fun and firm , one that my kid(s) would adore".

Years roll by and a little torando sweeps up all the trashy theories out of my life ....including the one above. My little girl , she ever so bluntly brushes away all signs of my intellectual capacities.

Long time ago I believed children are like clay and that the responsibility of moulding them lies with parents.Now I have come to believe that parents ought to be more of facilitators than doers.Kids...they have it all in them.

Everyday I ve a lot to unlearn ...out-dated thoughts to eliminate, realities of parenthood to accept and most of all embrace...willingly or otherwise... the changes she brings in me.She literally is shaping the mommy in me. Everyday I think hard ( google if required) to give her appropriate responses, to dissipate power-struggles and to entertain her satisfyingly.Never knew contemplating can be this exhausting ( that I feel my brain weary and parched).

Some days are tougher than the others...but with a glimpse of her sweet slumber everything makes sense. Parenting is the toughest thing ever...


3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Long time ago I believed children are like clay and that the responsibility of moulding them lies with parents. Now I have come to believe that parents ought to be more of facilitators than doers.Kids...they have it all in them. - I think you are becoming another 'Maria Montessori' :)

nullity said...

true words. On the knowledge part, I experienced exactly the same thing with my nephew..very Often I wondered how he can ask such questions..during an overnight train journey, at around 1.30am he was all awake and asked me a question..why there is always two lines on the railway track?...my junior is still young to ask questions..I am hoping that my experiences with nephew would help immemsely during that stage...with children "Everyday we' ve a lot to unlearn & learn"...:-)
nullity

Risha said...

@Anonymous
Yeah...I am on my way there I guess.

@nullity
Kids are good way to challenge and refresh our saturated brains.You better prepare for the storm:) And thanks for stopping by !!!