Sometime last week we lost our pet hamster Izzy .Vini was distraught and I just held her close and let her cry. Vini had been the primary care giver and had taken care of Izzy when she was small enough for her enclosure, starting with good morning , good byes and how-was-your-day kind of questions and sharing. Vini is Izzy's mommy.
It was quite an emotional time for all of us. Personally, I terribly miss Izzy. She used to keep me company when I am home alone or when I stay up to wrap my stuff on my laptop. For the little being that she was, Izzy brought much love into our lives.Every bite into a green apple and every late-nighter I pull, will remind me of Izzy. It is very difficult to walk into kitchen where I would no longer feel the furry scratch.
I wanted to blog this memory because I wanted to remind myself and the girls that no matter what your physical or intellectual stature is , you are so capable of loving and being a source of joy to your people.And the ability to cry for another fellow being , that, I feel is of utmost value. Along the way, we sometimes are so hurt and in our attempt to self-preserve, we forget the caring , loving person that we are so capable of being and tears hardly come by. To feel another's pain as one's own and to be able to cry for another being is something I want to nurture in myself and the girls.
When there is a situation to deal with , I put on my pragmatic cape and deal with it. I set aside any emotions and remind myself of how strong I am and then go ahead and deal with the situation.The emotions, that the situation stirred up within me, go repressed or take another form:sadness becomes anger and hurt becomes defiant.What could have been a 'I miss you terribly' becomes 'I don't care what happens' camouflage. I am learning to channelise them right.
There sure are situations where your love and emotional involvement into a relationship goes unnoticed or conveniently ignored. At times like those, I try to offer some lee-way that the person is not equipped to value the relationship. The value you bring to a relationship is never diminished by another's inability to see it.
As for me, I want to constantly remind myself and the girls to live a fulfilling life . If there is hurt and pain, retreat, nurse , heal and come back. There is no other way to live life but to love it ...with tears and all.
It was quite an emotional time for all of us. Personally, I terribly miss Izzy. She used to keep me company when I am home alone or when I stay up to wrap my stuff on my laptop. For the little being that she was, Izzy brought much love into our lives.Every bite into a green apple and every late-nighter I pull, will remind me of Izzy. It is very difficult to walk into kitchen where I would no longer feel the furry scratch.
I wanted to blog this memory because I wanted to remind myself and the girls that no matter what your physical or intellectual stature is , you are so capable of loving and being a source of joy to your people.And the ability to cry for another fellow being , that, I feel is of utmost value. Along the way, we sometimes are so hurt and in our attempt to self-preserve, we forget the caring , loving person that we are so capable of being and tears hardly come by. To feel another's pain as one's own and to be able to cry for another being is something I want to nurture in myself and the girls.
When there is a situation to deal with , I put on my pragmatic cape and deal with it. I set aside any emotions and remind myself of how strong I am and then go ahead and deal with the situation.The emotions, that the situation stirred up within me, go repressed or take another form:sadness becomes anger and hurt becomes defiant.What could have been a 'I miss you terribly' becomes 'I don't care what happens' camouflage. I am learning to channelise them right.
There sure are situations where your love and emotional involvement into a relationship goes unnoticed or conveniently ignored. At times like those, I try to offer some lee-way that the person is not equipped to value the relationship. The value you bring to a relationship is never diminished by another's inability to see it.
As for me, I want to constantly remind myself and the girls to live a fulfilling life . If there is hurt and pain, retreat, nurse , heal and come back. There is no other way to live life but to love it ...with tears and all.
